Wednesday, May 24, 2017

One Month

We have been together in Japan for almost a month now, but it feels like we've been here for a lifetime already. Not at all in a bad way; I just feel that we have accomplished so much, in so little time. We have had to set up and start all over again; this time in a foreign country where neither of us can speak or read the native language. But one thing is for certain, we have been guided and directed by the Lord. There is absolutely no denying that God has been watching over us and aiding us in every moment.

I'll start at the flight over. The TSA agents at LAX were amazing (I know, most often it's horror stories with the TSA!) They personally helped me with my bags, water bottles, two daughters and two precious baby dolls. Oh, and my 7 massive checked bags! (Huge thanks to my parents, my dad in particular who lugged those around California for a day before we flew out. I got as close to 50lbs per bag as possible haha!) Once through security the girls were amazing at the airport, checking out the planes, making friends with other kids waiting at various gates, and hanging out with me. We lost Evelyn's baby doll at the money exchange counter, luckily to remember and find it again before lift off. We made friends with a flight attendant who came and checked on us several times! She said her children were the same age as mine, and she knew how hard flying could be. She even brought me fresh fruit and snacks from first class. Yeah, she was clutch. The girls were so good for the flight. Only a few tears when we had to go to the bathroom. Plane bathrooms are a bit freaky, loud and strange. After that, it was all movies, naps and snacks. Once we landed, airport staff came and helped us through immigration and customs. The girls were on the brink of falling apart, as was I. Someone came and whisked us to the side and pushed us through to the next section. After that, I thought Donny would be able to meet us and pick up our checked luggage. That wasn't the case. I started to feel quite overwhelmed and exhausted, knowing I was in a massive airport, all the signs in Japanese, no cell phone, two cranky kids, a mountain of luggage, and our carry-on's. When I finally found the correct baggage claim, someone grabbed a luggage cart for me, and helped me put everything on. An airport employee even made the girls smile while I was managing logistics. Then another kind stranger came up and pushed my cart, all the way through the final check point to my husband. I don't think I've ever felt at the mercy of so many strangers, but I am fervently grateful for all of their help.

After a few days of the girls having rough jet lag (waking up at 3am ready to start the day haha) we finally got back to regular schedule. So glad that happened :)

The first Sunday at church was a whirlwind! We were called to serve as Pathway Missionaries (More on that later) and everything is in Japanese! Obviously it would be, but it's still neat to hear familiar things, like hymns, the sacrament prayers, and greetings in Japanese instead of English. I love that the church we attend(www.lds.org) is a global church, meaning everyone in every congregation no matter where they are is learning the same things on Sunday. The hymns are different, and the opening and closing prayers are different, but the things that really matter, like the sacrament prayers, the doctrine in the lessons, and the truths taught are universal. It really helps me not feel too homesick. It's my little connection to America. Church, and Costco. My links to the US. Haha :)

Costco! Costco in JP is the same, yet different. But the most important thing about Costco is the food court, obviously. {If you were going to say something different, like produce, Vitamix deals, or TV sales, then you're seriously missing the mark ;) } They have hot dogs, pizza, chicken bakes, fresh salad, and Coke. And other things, but let's get real. I'm there for the "Almost American" food!! We now purposely plan our Costco trips around a meal time. Which for us, can be anytime of day really! Costco in JP delivers, which is fantastic. We don't have a car, so we take the train everywhere. Carrying lots of excess things, bags, etc is highly frowned upon. So we walk through, get everything we need and then ship it. It's so nice. When we return stateside, I'm going to be spoiled. Pulling up beside the store and having them load my car will no longer be enough! Thank you Japanese Costco!

Our neighborhood is perfect. When we decided to take this job offer, I was a little sad thinking we would be in a totally urban area, very high up in the sky, far away from anything terribly kid friendly. We live in the complete opposite of that. We're in a two story house in a quiet neighborhood, about 8 minutes to the train station on foot, and 5 minutes to Donny's work on foot. It's such a get set up. One of our neighbors speaks nearly perfect English, having lived in the UK for a bit, and she has been such a great help to us. Her son is aged right between the girls, and they all get on really well together. There are lots of other children in our neighborhood. They all ride around on scooters and bikes, like a little biker gang. It's so cute. The oldest is maybe 10. Most of them are boys. The girls, Evelyn in particular, have a few admirers. They come and knock on our windows are stand there until the girls show up, or their mom apologizes and shoo's them away. It's hilarious. I'll try to catch it on camera one of these days. I asked Evelyn the other day if she liked her friends here in Japan. She replied, "I don't know what they're saying, but I like to ride scooters with them!". Our kids are showing some serious toughness. They take everything in stride. Yeah, everyone melts down occasionally, but these girls are adjusting so well. They eat Japanese food, hang out with Japanese kids, go to Japanese primary, they're learning Japanese words and they do it all with a smile. I'm so proud of how well they're doing. Watch, now that I bragged about my kids they're going to show some serious teeth tomorrow! That's something my grandma taught me. She said never brag about your kids, because they'll turn around and do something to embarrass you! Let's see what tomorrow has in store... :)

The house we live in is so great. It's the first time we've had our own walls, not in an apartment complex. It's a far cry from our apartment in Rexburg above Sammy's...that's for sure!! Haha! Fun memories in that crazy place! I have had several people ask me about our house, and what it's like to live here. To be honest, it's not all that different than the US. There are a few different things, but we are already so comfortable, and it feels like our home. But there are a few cool things I thought would be fun to share!
When you enter a Japanese home you remove your shoes. There is a special place to do this, it's called the genkan. Ours is tile, and we do it just like Japanese people. No shoes in the house. Sometimes it's a hassle, but it does help keep things clean, and I love that the girls are learning new customs. They've started to do it naturally without me having to remind them. Here it is... 

Further in this picture is our 'living room' of sorts. We're still working on furnishing it. My beautiful piano is all the furniture I need! Ha! The floor in there is tatami. It's a tightly woven grass mat. It smells amazing. Very clean and fresh, like a scented candle! The closets are sliding doors, and are large and spacious. There supposed to hold futons (mattresses) during the day, and then be brought out for night to sleep on. No one sleeps in here, so we just put all our junk in there for now!
This is the rest of the living room. Our windows are huge, and have storm shutters on the outside. the sliding screens are paper, and so cool. Although, Claire has already pushed a toy through one. I guess that's what a deposit is for? Haha.




This is our kitchen. Yes, it's clean. This happens once every year, so soak it in people. Our fridge is amazing. I love it. It was a bit confusing at first, every level is a different temperature. Top is fridge, next is freezer, then fridge again, then freezer on the bottom. I learned this the hard way, ending up with some accidentally frozen items! Haha.
Our kitchen has a cool sliding door to close it off to the rest of the house, I think it's pretty. Never been used, but nice to look at! The little closet by the fridge is just storage under the stairs. The square on the floor is our 'cellar' box. It opens up, and we put the girls in there for time out...I'm absolutely joking! For now, it's just there. Our stovetop is gas, and we have a little broiler. It's great for toast! That is if I can avoid burning it... Our kitchen is tiny, but it's so big compared to our little kitchen in apartment #1 above Sammy's. So compared to that, this is do-able!

This is the bathroom. Tile. Tile. Tile. In Japan, you shower and then soak in the tub. It makes sense, who wants to soak in filthy water? The tub is deep. I love that it's all tile, the girls can splash as crazy as they want. The water rarely even makes it out of the tub, it's so deep. The controller on the wall is our water heater.

The water closet! Quite similar to commodes in the United States, however there is a faucet at the top. After flushing, clean water comes out for you to wash your hands right there. Hence the soap on the shelf, and towel on the wall. Most toilets here are either a squatty potty or a fancy one with buttons. I'm glad ours doesn't have buttons, the kiddos would enjoy that a bit too much!

So that's our place! Most things are very similar to the US. But it has a cool Japanese flair. Our bedroom is tatami mats as well. All of the walls are covered in wall paper. Even the ceiling has wall paper! It's a pretty rose pattern. It's a pain, because we can't nail anything into it, but we do have a picture rail. Slowly we'll start to hang things up. Little by little.

I'm loving how little we have. It's so nice to have less. I'm definitely in the minimalist camp right now. It's easy to clean up, maintain, live in...I could go on! Clutter and big messes make me feel anxious and uncomfortable, so this is very easy living for me.

So this is turning out to be the longest blog post. I have so much more I could write about. But for now, a few more things.

Pathway. Donny and I have been called to serve as Pathway Missionaries for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.(https://pathway.lds.org/)  Already, it has been such a blessing in our lives! Our calling entails us helping to facilitate and direct at the Japan Tokyo site with another amazing member in our ward, Sister Kimura. Without her bilingual abilities, hard work, and coordination we would be so lost. This is the first Pathway site in Japan, so we're the first Pathway missionaries to serve in the country. We feel incredibly blessed to be involved in something so extraordinary. The Pathway program allows students to begin to prepare for college, earn a certificate or finish a degree. It also helps teach English. Our site focuses heavily on this. Everyone is learning English as their second, third or fourth language. All of the students attending at the Tokyo Pathway site are remarkable. They each have so much going on: work, children, spouses, callings, elderly family to care for...the list goes on! Despite this, they all work so hard. We get to be a part of their journey and help them along as missionaries. It's amazing. I feel so humble and small, thinking God would allow us to help. It caused me to think, "What can I even offer? I'm not smart enough to do this. I'm not old enough to do this. There must be someone better suited." I was then reminded that whom the Lord calls, He qualifies. I already feel as if I am being taught and aiding in ways I didn't think possible. I have a lot more qualifying to do, that's for sure. But for now, I know without a doubt that our family is supposed to be here. I feel blessed beyond comprehension.

Tomorrow (the 25th for us) marks one month that the girls and I arrived. I feel a lot of different things. Excitement about all the adventures yet to happen. (Tokyo Disney next week!!) Blessed because of our Pathway service. Grateful for all the kind people and ward members who have been there for everything. Happy to be all together again. I also miss my family back in the United States. I wish Japan wasn't so far away. But when I ever think about feeling homesick, I think of what my Grandpa Bullard told me a few months ago. He said that this would be an adventure, and that I would look back on it years from now, and remember it as the happiest of times. I make it my goal every day to do that.

Thursday, March 23, 2017

5 Year Anniversary

Donny leaves for Tokyo on Sunday. Holy cow! It's already time! We've packed and re-packed our bags. Purchased almost every traveling gadget we think we might need, and stuffed as many goodies into our carry-ons. Donny will be in Tokyo for a few weeks, setting up our apartment, phones, doctors, insurance, etc. Then the girls and I will fly out and join him in the end of April. I am a little disappointed I don't get to tag along for our pretend version of International House Hunters, but alas, life goes on.

Tomorrow marks our 5 year anniversary. What a man I married. He is a high caliber man who works harder than anyone I know. When I was growing up, my mom told me to marry a man like my father. And I don't think I could have done a better job. Donny is kind, faithful, courageous, loyal, funny and charming. Not to mention, he is rather handsome. We've been though hard things together, broke in college, broke at graduate school, and broke everywhere in-between. But we've never been poor where it matters. He is always finding ways to make my life better. Everything he does is to support me, our girls, and our future. I'm so happy to be a part of this. Being with him makes everything better.

The next month will be hard. It's the longest we've ever been apart. I'm so used to his presence, it'll be strange to be away from each other. Thankfully, it's just a month, and Skype, FaceTime and What'sApp are real things. It'll be hard for our girls, that is for sure. I'll have to perfect some of my bedtime stories, songs and routines to match Donny's high set standard. He reads and sings to them every night, so I can enjoy a few minutes alone after a long day. See what I mean? They don't make husbands and fathers much better...

As fun as the first 5 years were, I'm certain the next 5 will be even better.



Sunday, November 20, 2016

Moving to Japan

Last blog entry was written in JANUARY…I’d say that’s a bit indicative of how busy we’ve been J A lot has been insane, and even more has been just fun. A whole lot of fun!

Let me recap a bit.

Our girls are 3 years old and 16 months old.
I stay at home and teach piano.
Donny attends school, and works on the weekends.
We live in Monterey, CA and life is a beach. Only literally…

Where to even begin? I feel like I have to-do lists coming out of my ears. Some times it’s a bit overwhelming, and I feel a little frazzled. But I know that’s expected. It’s like eating an elephant, just a bite at a time. The important things are being taken care of, or are already crossed off my list. There are just SO many small details to remember, and to follow through with. We started with passports, figuring that was the best spot to begin. I can’t even tell you how adorable Claire’s passport photo is. I can barely handle the cuteness!! Evelyn’s too! They don’t even know the adventure that’s coming up, or the amazing experiences that lie just around the New Year.

So we’re going to survive the last few weeks of the semester…I’m not quite sure how, but we will! Donny will graduate (With a 3.8 GPA I might add…) and we’ll stick around in Monterey until March. We’re still figuring out travel plans, and whatnot…hence the lists upon lists upon lists…you get the point!

More about Donny’s job…he’ll be a member of the English faculty at Tokyo International University. He’ll be teaching English to people who have not learned it before, Japanese, Koreans, Chinese, and just about any other nationality too. It’s a two-year contract, and there are several opportunities to renew. I mean, the Olympics are set for Tokyo 2020… Haha. We’ll see!

I’ve had a good amount of people ask us why we want to go abroad. For us, there are several reasons. It’s a huge stepping-stone for Donny’s career. Most stateside colleges and universities want their TESOL professors to have foreign teaching experience. So this helps set us up for the future, when we come back to the US. (Yes, we are definitely coming back! What other nation on earth fries Twinkies and has March Madness?) Another reason now is the perfect time is because our children are young. Making friends at age 3 is much easier than age 13. Yes, I am concerned about making sure our girls are happy and well adjusted to a new way of living. Will it be difficult? Absolutely. But we’re Hansens. We’re made of tough stuff, and we do things together, no matter what. Last, but probably the most important reason…it’s an adventure!! Why not? This is such an exciting opportunity, and I’m still pinching myself over it!


I can’t help but smile when I think about it. I thought I’d throw in this story, to explain a bit more of how I’m feeling…

When we started dating I was very young, and I still had lots of things on my ‘single bucket list’. Several of those were locations to travel to, and new cultures to experience. When things started to get more serious, and I started to realize that I loved Donny I needed to choose. Do all of these things on my list, chase those dreams, or choose Donny. I didn’t realize how much I loved him until I realized that I didn’t want to travel anywhere, or see some amazing sights unless he was with me. If Paris was for lovers, I didn’t want to go alone. And so I chose him, and I knew that everything would work out. The Lord is actively involved in our lives, even when we can’t see it.


And here I am 5 years later, laughing and crying…because the Lord does have a sense of humor, and He really is involved in our lives. What a happy life we share now. I’m still pinching myself, thinking, how did I land a guy like him. J

Tuesday, January 12, 2016

Ready..Set..2016!


Maybe someday I will write more consistently. Maybe.

Our Christmas was wonderful. We spent most of the break in Clovis/Madera with our parents and a few siblings. Donny and I went to see the Nutcracker Ballet, and we loved it. I love, love that I married a man who not only attends, but semi enjoys cultural events, ballets, concerts, etc J But don’t get me wrong…we watched a whole lot of football over the break. A whole lot.

After having such a busy semester, pretty much being a single parent, wondering when my poor husband would get home from the library (2am or 3am), it was a huge change to be on vacation. And wow was it nice!! Donny passed all six of his classes with B+ and higher. Such a brain. Makes my head hurt.

We rang in the New Year by going to sleep before 10. It was the best. I think I want to do it that way every year from now on. (That is definitely the sleep-deprived parent in me speaking)

Donny is still serving in the Young Men’s presidency, and I am an instructor in Relief Society and the pianist as well. It does make for a fun Sunday when I get to play the hymns and teach the lesson. Lots going on!

I’ve started teaching piano again, and I love it! All of my students are from our congregation, and they are such a fun group of kids. They are all at different skill levels, so it definitely keeps me on my toes. Donny has been able to be home with the girls during the lessons, so that has been really nice. When classes are in full swing again, I will most likely be on the hunt for some afternoon help.

The girls are doing so well. They love each other very much, and it melts my heart to see them laugh together, and play. Evelyn is usually trying to wake Claire up from a nap so she can play. (Cute the first time, not the umpteenth) Life is good.

This coming year is going to have so many fun and exciting things going on; A few of them at the same time! In March, we get to celebrate our 4th wedding anniversary! In April, Donny will be going to Baltimore for the 50th International TESOL conference for a week, and then later that month he’s helping put on the FLEDS conference here in Monterey for the University. Claire will be 6 months old on Friday, and a year old in July. Evelyn will be 3 in August, and Donny will graduate in December. And a million other everyday and happy moments will occur between now and then. Let’s hope that I get around to blogging sometime before then J

Take care!




Wednesday, November 11, 2015

Catching Up

I would have blogged earlier… but something about being a mom with more than one kid makes life a bit busier haha. (Mom’s of more children, feel free to judge)

But now that the girls are close to being on the same sleeping schedule (SO grateful Evelyn isn’t up several times a night, just Claire!), I have a minimal amount of ‘spare’ time on my hands.

Time has been flying by. On Sunday, Claire will be 4 months old! I can hardly believe it. She is very active and chatty, and is always interested in what Evelyn is doing. It’s so fun to watch them interact together. Evelyn loves to make faces and funny sounds to make Claire laugh. It melts my heart to see them play together. Evelyn has grown up so much too. She is learning to be more independent, and I love to see her gain self-confidence. Yesterday at the park, she finally mastered a ‘big kid’ ladder. She must have climbed it 15 times, and every time she finished she clapped and cheered for herself. I don’t think we’ll have too many confidence issues! I can foresee some future FHE’s covering humility though… ha J

Donny has been doing so much. So much. The man is up early, and goes to bed early…the next morning. He’s been burning the candle at both ends since the semester started. As I'm writing this, he is at the library, studying some more. I have loved to see him grow and learn though. When we have time to talk (usually as we’re both falling asleep) and he tells me about what he’s been working on, and future projects and research he’s lining up, I am just amazed at the man I married. Wow was he a catch! He is so good at what he does, and he’s already thinking two steps ahead. He does so much for us, and is always up for a tickle fight with Evelyn, and giggles with Claire. I can’t wait for Christmas break, for him to finally have a chance to rest, and not read or study anything. And of course, see the new Star Wars movie. That’s a no brainer, duh. J

I have been doing well too. Now that I’m sleeping more, I’m feeling much more like my old self. Which is more than refreshing. No one really mentions how emotionally difficult it is to be a mom. Whether it’s your first, or your seventh, having babies takes it’s toll. I’m just so grateful for the amazing support I have received from my husband, family and friends. I love them all so much.

Finding time to do everything I want has been a struggle. I had a friend tell me once, “You can’t have a clean house, happy kids and sleep. You can only have two. Choose wisely.” Ha. And how right she is! This was something I did not want to wrap my head around. I didn’t factor in how hard postpartum life can be. Last year, Donny bought me an entry into the Phoenix Marathon for Christmas. (I know, I’m one of those weird people who ask for that sort of thing) A few weeks after, we found out we were expecting. So I put my race on hold. I figured, I would defer and run in 2016. Eight weeks after Claire was born, I was already logging miles. I was finally able to run again. A huge outlet for me was finally open again. I loved going in the early morning, getting my runner’s high and feeling my sore muscles. It’s my happy place. For sure. (Other happy places include: Movie & popcorn; Donny’s arms; beach & a novel, etc) But as I started to up my distance past 8 miles, I realized I couldn’t do it all. Evelyn wanted to wrestle and play on the playground, and I was too tired to do it. I was spent by 4pm each day, and my family needed me past 9pm. Something had to give, and it wasn’t my girls, that’s for certain. So I worked out a compromise. I decided to do the half marathon instead. Happy mom (with enough energy to play all day), happy girls, happy husband, happy life. Win. Win. Making sacrifices as a mom is hard. You have this mental motivation and picture that says you can fit every little thing into your life. But cramming too much can hurt the people that matter the most. But 20 years from now (when both of my knees have been replaced haha) I know I will be happy with my choice to put my family before anything else. Running around with Evelyn at the park is much more important than running across a finish line.


Have a good one! Until next time!

Daddy Daughter Dance Photo Booth! I love Evy's clenched fists! So excited! Ha :) 

Grammy brought a box to play and color in for General Conference! Such a lifesaver! 

Claire and Evy in the stroller

Grammy and Grandpa Jamie visiting

Happy girls, messy room!

Evelyn was being too quiet in her room, and I came in to find this! My little book worm! 

Making silly faces with the starfish at the aquarium